It’s so easy to get demotivated or get social envy by scrolling through Facebook or checking your friends snaps. I know I do. I just got major Facebook envy seeing my friend’s trip to Cuba this morning. That tan, those mojitos, that music. While I am here, no tan, work all day, a little bit of PMS, I smell a bit like onions and a lot like I’ve had such a long ordinary day.
I always say to myself and to others that this is because people only show their best moments on social media. So on your ordinary day or even on your bad day, seeing 100 peoples special moments is just not great. It makes your day a lot more worse. A few years ago the only awesome thing we would hear about someone is about how grand their wedding was few months ago or that their son that you’ve never seen got their PHD a few months ago in God knows where.
Now you know about everything, everyday, with tons of pictures, updates, congratulations, and likes, wows, and you know the drill. We see the proposals, the gifts, the flowers, the achievements, and the six pack that lasted half a month. When you’re having a great day when you’re on vacation and you’re actively posting on social media, social media won’t bother you. On the contrary.
Now that’s a discussion on a different day. One day when we should all post ordinary moments to remind each other of the normalcy of the rest of the world so we can stop thinking everyone is living the high life.
Today though I realized something very different. I realized that yes, I post the nicest picture of some of our family outtings, and yes I’ll post about my achievements or TV appearances or happy updates of my marriage or pregnancy or my family’s achievements. But those are not my happiest moments. My happiest moments are not the moment I took that picture. I might take the best picture on date night, but I’ll never post that picture of finally getting into bed with my husband after a long day just to snuggle and sleep.
Yes I’ll take a picture with my family all dressed up going to a wedding, but I’ll never be able to take that perfect picture on an ordinary dinner when my brother says a joke and we all laugh so hard while I stare and wonder when did my sister and brother grow into such remarkable adults.
I might take a picture when my son is playing or saying something funny, but I will never be able to take a picture or video of reading his bed time story while he plays with my face until he falls asleep. Why? Because first taking it would wake him up which is absolutely not what I want, and second because it will look so ugly in that dark room, and yet that moment is beyond words and beyond capturing.
Cameras were intended to capture the best moments, and social media to share them. But cameras will never capture the best of moments, and social media will never see them.